Do you ever have moments where everything seems to come together? Have you ever noticed when those moments happen? For me, they happen when I step back and allow them to happen. When I take a break from the craziness that we call a life. When I take the time to reflect on who I am and what I want to do with the short time I have here on earth. And as my thirties race by, I’m starting to realize just how quickly the rest of my days are going to fly by. This morning I took a few minutes to browse other blogs that promote the “simple life” and I came across this video. It was exactly what I needed to hear. By the time I got to the end of the video, I literally sighed a sigh of relief. The funny thing is, my sister and brother in law told me pretty much the exact same thing just the other day. They said, “Lauren, relax. You’ve done a lot in the last five years. Just give yourself a break. You’ve done enough.” If I wasn’t such a hardass, I probably would have cried because I always feel like I’m not doing enough. Like being a mom isn’t enough. We live in a society where there is so much pressure. Where you feel like nothing you do is ever going to be enough. But it is. No one can live up to the expectations that we have created. No one. So, if you feel like you’re not doing enough, not making enough money, not busy enough. Just stop. It’s enough.
Probably most of you won’t take the twelve minutes to watch this video because you’re too busy. But what kind of life do we have if we can’t spare 12 minutes? This is how I want to feel. This lady’s voice is so calming because she’s so at peace with who she is and what she believes in. In starting this blog, I’ve struggled to put into words exactly what I’m searching for, but this is pretty much it. If you can spare the 12 minutes, watch it.
I want to boycott busy. It’s exhausting and I know it’s effecting my health. I never had acne as a kid but starting in my early twenties when life started to get confusing and stressful, it started. I’ve also had painful stomach problems at various times during my life that I’m sure were just a manifestation of the stress I was feeling. I talk to people all the time who have undiagnosed, lingering health problems and I would be willing to bet that stress is the underlying cause of most of those problems. The two months I spent in Costa Rica were the only two months of my adult life that I have been acne free. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. Although I think the salt water helped too. I really like the idea of measuring my self-worth by the way I treat other people. I want to have the energy and clarity to engage in meaningful conversations with my son about dinosaurs. I want to take more of an interest in my husband’s hobbies and career goals. I want to spend a day helping my sister and brother-in-law fix up their new house. I want to cook my mom lunch. I want to have time for the people who matter the most to me. I want to feel relaxed at least most of the time. Is anyone else tired of being busy?