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Overnight Oats

Overnight Oats

Do you want to  know what it’s really like to  be a working mom?  Here’s a little story that pretty much sums it up…

I decided to get my shower out of the way last night.  I washed my hair, shaved, got all clean and respectable.  I knew I was going to workout this morning but I figured if I got the time consuming stuff, like shampooing hair and shaving legs, out of the way, then I could just rinse off post workout.  Yes, it’s gotten to the point that I have to  schedule showers into my day.  So… that’s what I did.  I took a “real” shower last night and then I went to the gym this morning and then came home for a quick rinse.  While in the shower this morning, I noticed that I only shaved one armpit last night.  Yep.  I went to the gym this morning and worked out in a tank top with one shaved armpit.  Isn’t that hot?  Thank god I’m married because I just ensured that all 500 men at the 24 hour fitness this morning will not be tempted to hit on me from this day out.  And I did pull-ups, just in case you were wondering.

Anyway, if you’re busy and find it hard to get both armpits shaved, much less cook a healthy breakfast, you have to try overnight oats.  It’s a delicious, healthy, lifesaving meal that you need in your life.  Guaranteed.

Here’s what you need…

Most recipes I’ve seen call for 1/3 – 1/2 cup of oats per serving but I am always hungry so I use 3/4 of a cup of oats per serving.

  • 3/4 cup of quick oats (you can use traditional rolled oats but I like the texture better with quick oats)
  • 3/4 cup of milk (I use Fairlife lactose free whole milk, but that’s because I have a lactose intolerant son and husband.  You can use whatever kind of milk you keep around.  For fewer calories, or dairy free, almond milk works well.)
  • 1 tsp chia seeds (optional, but it soaks up any extra liquid and makes it creamier)
  • 1 large spoonful of peanut butter
  • 1 tbsp of honey or maple syrup
  • dash of sea salt
  • dash of cinnamon

That’s it.  Put all the ingredients in any container with a lid, mix them up, and put them in the fridge.  The peanut butter won’t really mix in with everything but that doesn’t matter at all.  Your overnight oats will be ready to eat the next morning and will keep for 3-5 days.  Yep.  You just made breakfast for the week in 10 minutes.  Nice work.  You’re so smart, and so cool, and so healthy, and totally hot (even with one shaved pit).

Also, buy some berries and bananas so that if you happen to have 30 extra seconds in the morning, you can throw some fresh fruit on the top.

If you get sick of the regular recipe, there are a million ways to  tweak this recipe.  Check out this page for some creative flavors like chocolate or carrot cake.  Next week I’m going to try the tropical fruit flavor with mangoes, pineapples, and shredded coconut.  I’ll let you know how it tastes.

Happy breakfasting.  Don’t forget to shave both pits!


A Masculist Movement

A Masculist Movement

If anyone has figured out a way to make motherhood simple, I’m all ears, because I haven’t.  Whether you stay at home with the kids or work eighty hours a week, it’s still a lot.  A lot of work.  A lot of time.  A lot of responsibility.  A lot of organization.  A lot of worrying.  A LOT!  The feminist movement was a huge step in the right direction.  Yes, women should be treated equally and they should have every opportunity that a man has.  I wholeheartedly agree!  But sometimes it seems that instead of creating a culture where women are allowed to do anything, we’ve created a culture where women are expected to do everything.  Yes, women have proven themselves in the workplace and still raised great kids.  But at what price?  By giving up things like sleep and exercise?  Are we all expected to be superwoman?

Yes, today’s men are much more willing to help out around the house and participate in child care and I commend them for that.  But it’s still viewed as “helping out.”  If a husband cooks dinner at night, he thinks to himself, “Wow!  I’m a great husband and father.  I’m helping out.”  But if he’s “helping out,” that means the ultimate responsibility is not his.  Who cooks dinner on the nights he doesn’t feel like helping out?  Who’s responsibility is it to make sure that there is food in the fridge to cook?  Who makes sure that the whole family gets nutritious, well rounded meals?  Who arranges the child care pick-ups and drop-offs?  If we are really going to be equals, we need to change this idea of “helping out.”  We don’t need “a little help around the house,” we need our husbands to take something completely off our plate.  We need a husband who says, “I’ve got food covered.  Budgeting, shopping, cooking, packing lunches, nutrition.  Covered.  Don’t even think about it, babe.  I’ve got it.”  That’s what it takes to truly live as equals.

Otherwise, we expect the women of our generation to be CEOs at work and at home.  Even if we snag one of the good husbands who “helps out,” everything is still our responsibility.  We still sit down every evening with our to-do lists and day planners and double check that the kids have rides, grocery shopping is done, there are diapers in the closet, everyone has clean clothes, and someone is going to vacuum before the guests arrive on Thursday.  Stay at home moms already have a full time job, a really tough one.  So if you go back to work, do you have two full time jobs?  I know you can delegate some of the tasks, but the responsibility still seems to rest on the woman, because we are the mom.  I guess it’s true now more than ever.  A woman’s work is never done!

I’m ranting about this because I’m facing the decision of going back to work full time, part time, or not at all.  My first fear about going back to work is, obviously, not being the one there with my son all day teaching him about the crazy world we live in.  But, another great fear about going back to work is that I am still going to have all the same responsibilities at home, and there simply are not enough hours in the day, or enough brain cells in my brain, to stay on top of everything.  Something has to give, and I don’t want my kid to suffer if I let go of some of those responsibilities.

Luckily, I did snag one of those modern men who are willing to “help out.”  My husband is perfectly willing to pick up the slack if I decide to work full time, but will he do as good a job as I do?  Will he take FULL responsibility?  This might sound really arrogant, but I treat being a stay at home mom like a job, like a 24 hour a day job.  I was raised by a great, stay-at-home mom who set the standard pretty high.  So I don’t feel like I’m doing my job unless the house is clean, the bills are paid on time, the kid is happy, there’s a home cooked meal on the table, and tomorrow’s day is planned.  Can men do that?  It seems to me that women have proven their role in the workplace but have men proven their role at home?  Maybe we need a masculist movement where men can fight for their right to do laundry!